The big talk of the day in Denmark is the news of Princess Alexandra’s upcoming marriage. She divorced Prince Joakim (brother of Crown Prince Frederik) two years ago, and will lose her title upon re-marriage, thus becoming Countess Alexandra.
The public reaction to the divorce was nothing like that of Britain’s when Charles and Diana broke up. Muted sympathy and understanding is the common feeling towards Danish royalty – even to-be ex-royalty. Such is the case today, as well.
Which is all fair and good, or what? In this case, it’s probably for the best. But I was struck by some of the quotes from random people in a newspaper vox-pop (my translations):
“Of course she gets a good apanage, but if he is the man she likes, she cannot act against that. Then you have to do what you have to do.”
“Yes, I understand her. If she loves him then of course they should have each other. … Love has to be the decisive factor in such situations.”
If this is the common perception of love, I’m not sure I agree. Even though I am very much influenced by my culture (i.e., Hollywood), a melancholic, and a true romantic at heart. But should “love” come before everything else? And, more specifically, should romantic love, eros, come at the expense of everything else?
Is finding the perfect partner the sole reason for living, the only goal in life? Should everything else be cast aside in the quest for that one special person (or that one special person for each decade, year, or month)? I used to think that was my goal, too. Perhaps I still do. But I do hope there’s something more to life – greater values, a greater calling.